HOW TO HELP
Do write cards or letters that the bereaved can turn to during lonely times
It's a thoughtful gesture to take the time to write heartfelt cards or letters that grieving individuals can hold onto and find comfort in during their moments of solitude. These handwritten notes serve as a source of solace, offering a tangible connection to the support and love of friends and family. They become precious keepsakes, providing a lifeline for those navigating the difficult journey of grief.
Do invite conversation, let him/her feel free to talk or express feelings without embarrassment. Let him/her tell and re-tell what has happened.
It's essential to create an open and supportive environment for someone who is grieving. One of the most meaningful ways to offer comfort is by inviting conversation and ensuring that they feel entirely free to talk and express their feelings without any fear of embarrassment or judgment.
Do listen. You don't need to try to "fix" the situation, just let him/her express his/her feelings at the moment.
Listening attentively is a profound and compassionate way to support someone who is experiencing a challenging or distressing situation, such as grief, loss, or any other form of emotional hardship. When you engage in active listening, you offer a valuable gift: the opportunity for the person to express their feelings and thoughts without feeling pressured or judged. It's important to understand that the goal of listening isn't to find solutions or "fix" the situation immediately; instead, it's about providing a safe and empathetic space for them to be heard and understood.
Do write cards or letters that the bereaved can turn to during lonely times
It's a thoughtful gesture to take the time to write heartfelt cards or letters that grieving individuals can hold onto and find comfort in during their moments of solitude. These handwritten notes serve as a source of solace, offering a tangible connection to the support and love of friends and family. They become precious keepsakes, providing a lifeline for those navigating the difficult journey of grief.
Do visit and call often. Respect the need for the person to be alone at times. Strive for a balance between companionship and privacy
When someone is going through a difficult period in their life, such as grieving a loss or dealing with a challenging situation, your presence and support can make a significant difference. It's essential to strike a delicate balance between being there for them and respecting their need for alone time. This balance can be achieved through regular visits and calls, which offer companionship and a connection, while also recognizing the importance of privacy and personal space.
Do plan activities--invite and offer transportation. Don't be disappointed if he/she declines your invitation.
Planning activities and extending invitations can be a thoughtful way to provide comfort and companionship to someone who is going through a challenging time, such as grief or a difficult life situation. However, it's equally important to respect their emotional state and personal boundaries, understanding that they may not always be ready or willing to participate in social activities.
Do offer a helping hand with child care, pet care, house-sitting, or yard work. Do offer help with housecleaning-or if you see a need, start in.
Offering practical assistance with various aspects of daily life can be a significant source of support when someone is going through a challenging time or dealing with grief.
Don't judge. Believe in his/her ability to get through grief in his/her own way and his/her own time.
Refraining from judgment and having faith in someone's ability to navigate grief in their own way and on their own timeline is essential when offering support.
Do offer your skills to assist with organizational & clerical support such as writing notification letters, helping with the finances, or helping with the thank you notes.
Offering your skills to provide organizational and clerical support can be immensely helpful to someone going through a difficult time or dealing with a loss.
Do touch - hold hands, give hugs.
Touch, such as holding hands and giving hugs, is a powerful and compassionate way to convey support and comfort to someone who is going through a challenging time or experiencing grief. It's essential to be sensitive to the person's comfort level with physical touch. While some may welcome hugs and hand-holding, others may prefer less physical contact or none at all. Always respect their boundaries and preferences.
Do share memories. Don't avoid conversation about the one who has died.
Sharing memories and not avoiding conversations about the person who has passed away can be an essential part of the healing process and maintaining a connection with their memory.
Do prepare meals or offer an invitation to dine out.
Preparing meals or offering an invitation to dine out can be a practical and thoughtful way to provide support and comfort to someone who is going through a challenging time or grieving a loss.
Do ask "What can I do?" Be sincere about what you are willing to do. Know your limits. Only make offers if you can follow-through with them.
Asking "What can I do?" and being sincere about your willingness to help is an excellent way to provide meaningful support to someone who is going through a difficult time or grieving a loss. It's essential to know your limits and only make offers that you can follow through with.
Do ask "What can I do?" Be sincere about what you are willing to do. Know your limits. Only make offers if you can follow-through with them.
Asking "What can I do?" and being sincere about your willingness to help is an excellent way to provide meaningful support to someone who is going through a difficult time or grieving a loss. It's essential to know your limits and only make offers that you can follow through with.
Do support his/her emotional show of feelings--anger, guilt, sadness, fear.
Supporting someone's emotional expression, including feelings of anger, guilt, sadness, and fear, is a fundamental aspect of providing compassionate and effective support during difficult times.
Do offer to stay over or invite them to stay with you
Offering to stay over or inviting someone to stay with you can provide crucial emotional support and comfort during challenging times. While the offer to stay over or invite someone is made with good intentions, it's important to respect their comfort level and boundaries. Some individuals may prefer to have their own space and privacy during difficult times. Always communicate openly and ask for their preferences and needs.
Do make available personal resources i.e. a weekend stay at a beach cabin, hot tub, use of DVD, etc.
Making personal resources available to someone in need, such as offering a weekend stay at a beach cabin, access to a hot tub, or the use of DVDs, can be a generous and thoughtful way to provide them with a break from their challenges and an opportunity to relax and rejuvenate.
